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An introduction to Anxiety


Anxiety Statistics – Anxiety in children and young people has increased by 73% in the last decade. We could speculate all day about why this might be, the important thing is we recognise this increase and begin to support those children at home, in school, and socially.


Why Anxiety Occurs – Anxiety occurs when demands that are placed on us by our environment are out of balance with our ability to cope with them.


Impact of Anxiety – When we become anxious our breathing becomes faster and shallow, our pulse rate rises and we can become clammy and agitated. If we are preoccupied with the demand or threat that causes our anxiety, we can lose the ability to think logically, act rationally and learn successfully. If anxiety goes unsupported our physical health can also be affected.


Recognise and Reduce – Most children will experience feelings of fear at some point, but for overly anxious children it can really take over. It is important that we teach our children to begin to recognise the signs they are becoming anxious, in order to be able to reduce the symptoms of anxiety. Modelling recognising signs and connecting to feelings by noticing, ‘I noticed you are pacing, you are worried’. Try to avert an anxiety attack by helping your child decide on another course of action or helping them to choose a strategy you have already practiced.


The Science of Anxiety


Neuroscience Behind Anxiety – The reptilian brain is responsible for basic functions such as breathing and survival instincts. The amygdala is part of our reptilian brain and is like our super hero, instinctively responding to threats, danger or stress. As the world is now free from saber tooth tigers, and other such dangers, our superhero often gets bored and mistakes nerves for dangerous threats.


5 F’s – Our sympathetic nervous system responds to the amygdala’s distress signal and is responsible for our reactions to survive. Without thinking we can react to fear in one of 5 ways;


Flock: go to trusted people to feel safe


Fluster: make silly mistakes and panic as we can’t think straight


Fight: become agitated, angry and aggressive


Flight: run away at speed


Freeze: we are unable to move or speak, frozen in fear


Parasympathetic system – The parasympathetic nervous system balances out the sympathetic nervous system by activating our ‘rest and digest’. These signals are sent through the vagus nerve to the base of the spine. Our parasympathetic nervous system enjoys tai chi, yoga, being in nature, breathing and playing.


Skills and Strategies


Practice Calm and Practice Response – It is helpful to practice the desired response to anxiety, like practicing emergency stops when we learn to drive. This allows our brains to know just what we want them to do. Practicing being calm; by belly breathing, mindful colouring or listening to calming music, allows the state of calm to be a familiar state and makes it easier for your body to return to this state when you have been anxious.


Proprioceptive sense – We often find ourselves calming down by sending signals to our proprioceptive sense. The proprioceptive sense is responsible for letting our bodies know where they are in space. Lots of people naturally use proprioceptive seeking activities to help them calm their bodies. For example; weight bearing activities such as crawling or push-ups, hugging yourself or someone else, resistance activities such as pulling and pushing, cardiovascular activities such as running or jumping and oral activities such as chewing.


Positivity –Be positive and think happy thoughts can help you not to get stuck in a cycle of negativity. We need our children to move on from moods or feelings and recognise that feelings come and go; extended periods of time spent in a mood can make this mood all too familiar and common.


Problem Solving – When we encourage problem solving in everyday play and life we are linking the emotional brain with the rational brain. When this link is weak we are unable to make logical and rational decisions in times of need as our emotions take over. By supporting problem solving we are getting the 2 brains to work together and tis helps us to make decisions in emotional situations rather than just react in one of the 5 F’s.


Prepared – Being prepared for what’s coming in a positive way can help overcome the worries attached to it, especially if there is going to be change to your child’s usual routine, something overly exciting, or something they will worry about. For smaller children break steps down into simple ‘first and then’ such as, ‘first hang your coat on the peg, then we will go and find your friends’. Perhaps your child would benefit from a job to do every time they are going into a situation they don’t like? Activities like posting coloured lollipop sticks into a jar, or carrying the shopping list.


Predictability – Children thrive on routine and familiarity as this often reduces the unknown, which can be scary. It is good to expose your child to changes in routine but these are best done with support from a secure adult. For overly anxious children who have negative experiences of change to routine, practice changes in small positive steps.




Play Therapy can be beneficial for children who struggle with worry and anxiety. Some of the strategies discussed in this article can be used alongside Play or Creative Arts Therapy.


Advent Calendar

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New Training

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In the last 6 months I have completed some exciting new training. Parent-Child Attachment Play, which is a 10 step programme to support parents to build and strengthen their relationship with their child through play. Also Baby Yoga teacher training to compliment Baby Bonding sessions. If you are interested in either why not drop me a line to find out more.

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Baby Bonding groups for 2016

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New Baby Bonding groups offered for 2016.

These groups include lovely activities to do with your baby. They are developed with attachment and emotional development at the core and you will be shown how to create strong fondations for your baby's emotional wellbeing, or you can simply enjoy the quality time with your baby whilst taking part in some bonding activities.

There are 6 sessions 

The cost for the spring group is £60


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Morning Workshop

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Want an introduction to Baby Bonding? Come along to a morning workshop on Wednesday 23rd November, at Harley Village Hall. 10-12 midday for 6. Learn about emotional development in babies, brain development and play to support a secure attachment.

Baby Bonding Big Toddle

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Join Baby Bonding for a Big Toddle to raise money for Barnardo's 150th Anniversary of supporting the most vulnerable children and babies. Myself and my own toddler are hosting a toddle at Gaskell Recreation Grounds, Much Wenlock, Shropshire. Friday 30th September 2016 at 1pm. If you want to join us for a walk and well earned play afterwards all babies, toddlers and carers are welcome. You could collect sponsors of your own (I have packs for those interested) or you could donate to our fundraising page. Get in touch for more information